Dear Bernard,

I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn't gone more than a mile down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. 

I walked back home to get my husband's help. When I got home I couldn't believe my eyes. He was in the bedroom with a  neighbour making mad passionate love to her. 

I am 32, my husband is 34 and we have been married for ten years. When I confronted him, he tried to pretend that he went into the garden and heard a lady scream, had come to her rescue but found her unconscious. He'd carried the woman back to our house, laid her in bed, and began CPR. 

When she awoke she immediately began thanking him and kissing him, he was attempting to break free when I came back. But when I asked him why neither of them had any clothes on, he broke down and admitted that he'd been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. 

He was made redundant six months ago and  says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. I don't feel I can get through to  him anymore.

Can you please help?

Sheila U (Desford) 

Bernard says:

A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line, or it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber. I hope this helps.

Dear Beryl,

I've never written to you before, but I really need your advice on what could be a crucial decision.

I've suspected  for some time now that my wife has been cheating on me. The usual signs... phone rings but if I answer, the caller hangs up. My wife has been going out with the girls a lot recently although when I ask their names she always says, "Just some friends from work, you don't know them."  

I always stay awake to look out for her taxi coming home, but she always walks down the drive. Although I can hear a car driving off, as if she has got out of the car round the corner. Why? Maybe she wasn't in a taxi?  

I once picked her mobile up just to see what time it was and she went berserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her. 

Anyway, I have never approached the subject with my wife. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth,  but last night she went out again and I decided to really check on her.  

I decided I was going to park my Harley Davidson motorcycle next to the garage and then hide behind it so I could get a good view of the whole street when she came home.  

It was at that moment, crouching behind my Harley, that I noticed that the valve covers on my engine seemed to be leaking a little oil.  

Is this something I can fix myself or should I take it back to the dealer?

Roger P (Cadeby)


Read Beryl's reply next week, also Bernard has a tricky question about lacking self confidence.